Do you ever wonder what your life would be like if you had changed that one little thing, reacted differently in the moment, said the right words, or even the wrong ones? You often hear “live life with no regrets”, sounds amazing, right? You show me someone with no regrets and I’ll show you a person who has never been hurt, experienced heartbreak, been manipulated, thought they lost their best friend, or better yet… thought they lost themselves.
If you are the idiot running around with a “No Regerts” tattoo emblazoned on your skin, then your regret is out there for the whole world to see. Fortunately, or unfortunately, for most of us our regrets are buried much deeper. They leave a different kind of scar that you can never really shake; it burns and makes a mark on your soul that you’ll carry with you.
It is said that regrets in love and relationships are the most common. You often hear about the one who got away… in my case this is the one I should have left alone, The Narcissist.
Covert narcissists, like most predators, seek power and control. They want to dominate their partners sexually, emotionally, and physically. They do this by exploiting vulnerabilities. This is why they love-bomb you with attention and flattery in the beginning of the relationship—because no matter how strong or confident you are, being in “love” makes you vulnerable by default. Covert narcissists don’t need physical aggression to control you (although sometimes they do). Instead, relationships provide them the perfect opportunity to consume you by manufacturing the illusion of love. This is why it’s so damaging when bystanders say: “Well, why didn’t you just leave?” You never entered a relationship with the covert narcissist expecting to be abused, belittled, and criticized—first, you were tricked into falling in love, which is the strongest human bond in the world.
-Jackson MacKenzie
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